Hi, I'm Dr. Diane England, and I welcome you to Narcissism, Addictions, and Abuse . If you're a woman who's here because you suspect you might be in a relationship or marriage with a narcissist, I certainly feel for you. Needless to say, I wish this wasn't something you ever had to face or endure. But I commend you for stopping by to try and learn more about what you might be facing and why.
At first, it's typical to find yourself in a fog of confusion. Certainly, don't beat yourself up about this. Instead, congratulate yourself that you're taking this first step forward toward improving matters for yourself. After all, it isn't going to do you (or your family, assuming you have children) any good to keep your head stuck in the sand. No, you do yourself a huge disservice by doing that. It's best to start realizing how perhaps a combination of your partner's narcissism, addictions, and/or abuse are all taking their toll on you both emotionally and physically (even when you're not being physically abused--which I suspect you are not).
Yes, I hope the articles I've written and placed here prove helpful. That said, I wrote many of these articles at Narcissism, Addictions, and Abuse awhile back and for various reasons, too. Therefore, please don't expect the content from one article to the next to flow as if you're reading a self-help book. The good news, though, is that you can read the articles in any order you desire.
Before you get started with your reading, however, let me remind you that my intent is to educate women about narcissism and the narcissist, to discuss the types of addictions the narcissist is likely to exhibit, and to talk about the types of abuse the narcissist will likely engage in. In other words, the assumption is that, as the reader, you're currently in a relationship with an abusive narcissist. However, if you're seeking healing from being in an abusive relationship with a narcissist instead, please check out my website that deals with codependency and moving beyond that. To access that website's articles, you can click on the link to the left for "Codependency Articles" or click on the link right here right now.
Oh, let me also alert you to the fact that there may be some duplication of ideas or content within some of the articles. Hopefully, this will actually prove helpful. See, sometimes essentially the same idea expressed in a slightly different way will resonate more with you than the other. So, I hope any duplication you should encounter proves helpful--versus merely annoying. Certainly, you hardly need another annoyance in your life, do you?
One more thing. As you red through these narcissism, addictions, and abuse articles, I'd encourage you to do what the twelve-step programs such as Alcoholics Anonymous(AA) or Al-Anon suggest to their members. And what is that? Well, take what you like and leave the rest.
Well, I also have a favor to ask. If you find much of what I've written helpful, and you know of other women in similar circumstances who could benefit from reading narcissism, addictions, and abuse articles, please refer them to this website.
Now, let me send you my best as you not only settle into reading these articles, but as you perhaps take a step forward on a new journey.